mnmlist: Send Me Your Dating and Relationship Questions
In an effort to find out what people are reading and writing, I have feeds on several personal development blogs: Zen Habits, The Minimaliststs, EV Bogue, Jonathan Fields, Jonathan Mead at Illuminated Mind and even Tim Ferriss.
These guys (yes, they’re all guys) speak on a variety of topics like goal setting, overcoming obstacles, being happier, health, fitness. Some, like Leo Babauta of Zen Habits espouse simplicity. Others, like Ferriss, espouse over-the-top living.
I’ve been trying to figure out where I fit in the personal development blogosphere. Here are some places where I don’t fit:
- Money. I’m running low on the shit and can’t seem to generate more.
- Career. I’m asking my readers for jobs, which kind of blows my credibility there (got one?).
- Diet. A couple months ago I was vegan, now I’m eating meat three times a day—I wouldn’t dare take my readers through my dietary vicissitudes.
- Fitness. I work out regularly, but I’m hardly organized enough about it to share it in a systematized way.
- Happiness. Though quite happy, I don’t want the burden of being an expert on the matter.
- Time management. Do you know how long it took me to write this post?
A couple weeks ago I wrote a series about dating and relationships. They were my most popular posts to date. So many of us struggle with these topics, and while I won’t claim mastery, I know a thing or two. When I was single, I was able to meet women fairly easily. Through past relationships, I acquired vast knowledge that prepped me for the great relationship I’m in now.
So I’m offering up my dating and relationship, um, expertise. I would like to know what you’re dealing with—your situations, your questions, topics you’d like to see addressed. More specifically, here are some things I can offer:
- For women. I can offer a man’s-eye-view of your situation—whether you are seeking or are in a relationship. Many women are pretty blind to some of the things they do when meeting men. Same goes for relationships—you do things that set up lose-lose situations with your partners. I believe I can cure your blindness…or at least get you some glasses.
- For men. For years, I unconsciously did things that destroyed my chances with women before I even met them. I attracted either no one or the wrong one. I also did things that consistently ruined my chances for being in or maintaining happy, healthy relationships. I’ve come a long way and I’d love to share what I’ve learned.
Whether single, in a relationship, man or woman, gay or straight, please shoot me your questions or topic suggestions at df [at] davidfriedlander [dot] com. All correspondences will be strictly anonymous.
Remember that your question might not only help you, but someone who is going through the same situation (the issues don’t vary that much). I look forward to hearing from you.